5 Signs You Are Afraid of Failing (and What To Do About It)


Mindset is a common theme on Momentum Monday because it really is the make or break component of every success story. It’s like going to the gym for your morning workout. Between you and successfully making it to the gym are a thousand failure points — not enough sleep, lost running shoes, looming deadlines to name a few. The difference between those that make it to the gym and those who don’t is commitment — getting to bed on time, locating running shoes the night before, managing client expectations to you aren’t always behind.

The reason most people don’t make it to the gym for their morning workout is they don’t really want to, they don’t value the success and give themselves a convenient out. The same holds true for your business. The reason most people fail to accomplish what they set out to do is they give themselves permission to fail BECAUSE they are afraid (of success or failure…different sides of the same coin, but that’s for another post).

5 Signs You Are Afraid of Failing (and What To Do About It)

Talk, Talk, Talk! — Talking about what you are going to do instead of doing, especially when most of the conversations involve words that mean potential or describe what you are going to do, about to do or getting prepared to do. What is really means is you are afraid of doing and talking about and creating pre-work is an excellent way to avoid dealing with the actual issue.

Quick Fix: Stop talking. Stop booking meetings, stop reaching out to people, stop going for coffee. Stop. If you don’t have an audience, you won’t feel compelled to talk instead of doing.

Endless Research — Deciding that you need to learn everything there is to know about SEO before you launch your new web site when what you really should be doing is delegating that to an expert who understands SEO inside and out (or not worrying about launching with the perfectly search optimized site until you get through your first few quarters of sales).

Quick Fix: Delegate or do without, but don’t get stuck in a research rut. If  you don’t have the money to hire something out, get creative — trade services, outsource via Fiverr.com or hire a student who needs the experience!

‘Fake Work’ Projects — Cleaning your desk, sorting through email, filing papers, organizing anything in order to avoid the yucky tasks you know you need to be doing to move the business forward. One of the reasons fake work is so dangerous is because it feels like you are doing something, but it’s not the right something so you may as well go back to #1 and talk about what you are going to do.

Quick Fix: Pay attention to your daily habits and learn to recognize your go-to work avoidance tasks. If it’s mindlessly checking Facebook, turn it off during the day when you need to focus on priority tasks. If it’s tidying up your desk, clean it once and impose a strict no paper on the desk rule.

Always Ready With an Excuse — Knowing why something didn’t work before you even try it. In your mind, you already have your cover story on why this launch or that event wasn’t as successful as you had hoped (or even worse, talked and talked and talked about).

Quick Fix: Get in the habit of making a list of all the possible failure points and brainstorm corresponding preventative measures and implement them from the get-go.

Self-Sabotage — Delaying making the call you know could result in a key sale or partnership, neglecting sending out the promotion email until it’s too late, avoiding critical tasks that will make or break your business. All these behaviors, if you get right down to it, are a form of self-sabotage because they give you a convenient excuse (see sign #4) that X didn’t work out because you didn’t do Y in time.

Quick Fix: Establish a strategic plan for every key project that maps out exactly what you need to do and by when, and enter it in your task management system for implementation.



About Author

Carla Young, momeomagazine.com Publisher If there’s living proof that women can have it all – and then some – it’s Carla Young. Building her multiple businesses on a virtual work-at-home model, Carla is an inspiration to other mothers who want to start a lifestyle business. During her early days as a mom entrepreneur, Carla made every single mistake in the book (and a few new ones for good measure). Realizing that “doing it all” was unhealthy and unsustainable, Carla started by getting organized to the extreme, developing support systems for both her work and family. After other mothers started asking how they too could enjoy her lifestyle, Carla launched momeomagazine.com to support moms at work, at home and at play (because every mommy deserves a little me-time)!

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