An Essential Ingredient for Success: How to Do What You Don’t Want to Do-MOMeo’s 30 Day Challenge continues with Dr. Susan Biali

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My view of life and business changed forever, after I heard about an interview with an Olympic gold medal-winning athlete.  Asked about his practicing habits, he responded:

“It’s very simple, really. I only actually have to practice on two distinct occasions:  when I want to – and when I don’t want to.”

When I switched from being a full-time medical doctor to being a media wellness expert, health writer, author, speaker, coach, flamenco and salsa dancer, (and very part-time doctor), I did it because I wanted to be in charge of my life.

I wanted to call the shots and custom-design my ideal schedule. Most of all, I wanted to spend the majority of my life energy and time doing only what I love.

What a dream!

If I felt like moving to Mexico for a few years and spending most of my time dancing flamenco, I did it. If I didn’t feel like working on my book on a particular day, or even a particular year, I didn’t.

During that time, “living a life you love” was only about doing what you love, period, and simply rejecting or avoiding anything that felt like a chore. This worked for a while, and I actually got some pretty good results. I had enough income to live off of, and I’d accomplished many of my dreams.

But here’s the thing: I had bigger dreams. As it turned out, the wall between me and those dreams was this issue of only doing things when I felt like it.

To get to the next level, I would have to:

  • get more disciplined about my finances and attend to some things I’d been avoiding
  • move back to Vancouver temporarily, to be more accessible to media and to do extra medical work to raise capital
  • blog weekly, when I didn’t necessarily feel like it, in order to increase my internet presence (blogging “when I felt like it” was resulting in an average of one post every two months).

It’s one thing to do what you love – I still believe that this is one of the most powerful ways to fill your life with love, joy and purpose that will power you and your business. However, doing what you love, even when you don’t feel like doing it, is what will ultimately bring you the kind of success you dream of. So will doing what you don’t love, in order to make the business you love a success.

How has this worked for me?

Just a couple of years ago I was only really known in national health and wellness circles. Now, I just released my first book, have been receiving grateful letters from readers in several countries, and just booked an interview to appear on one of the top entertainment shows in the world next week.

To truly give what you love the best chance for success – love what you do, but do what you don’t love when you have to.

What do you need to do, that you don’t want or love to do, in order to take your business and life to the next level? I would love to know!

Comment below and let me know what you struggle with, feel free to ask me questions, and I’ll do my best to give you whatever advice and encouragement I can.

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Dr. Susan Biali, M.D. is an internationally recognized medical doctor, wellness expert, life coach, and flamenco dancer.  She has performed for and taught celebrities, and speaks and dances across North America.  She blogs for PsychologyToday.com and her opinions appear in international media such as FoxNews, MSNBC, Self Magazine, Cosmopolitan Magazine, and The Chicago Tribune.  Her book, Live a Life You Love: 7 Steps to a Healthier, Happier, More Passionate You, has just been released. 

www.susanbiali.com

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  • http://momeomagazine.com/ Carla Young

    Thank you for sharing the wisdom of doing what you don't want to do!

    How do you suggest people motivate themselves to do what they must do when it isn't what they want to do?

  • retrobou

    This is so spot on, I know it, but can't seem to motivate myself to do those “I don't want to” tasks. Guess I need to buckle down, maybe do those first and get them out of the way?

  • http://www.susanbiali.com/ Dr. Susan Biali

    Hello! For me it has been so helpful to know that the things that I don't want to do (as they relate to business and my life) are the very things that I have to do in order to get to the next desired level in my life. So as soon as I get that “I don't want to do” feeling, I know that it's probably something important that I need to do, so that helps motivate me to actually do it. That said, if there are things in your business or life that you don't want to do that you can delegate, do that! And yes, it certainly helps to begin your day by doing the important things that you don't necessarily want to do, that takes a huge mental and emotional load off you and the rest of the day feels so much lighter. You can also promise yourself some kind of a treat after – I'll often reward myself by walking my dog in the fresh air after I'm done a no-fun task, or will rent myself a great movie, or go out for dinner or lunch with my husband…remember to celebrate your accomplishments, however small!

  • http://www.susanbiali.com/ Dr. Susan Biali

    Hi Carla! The most effective thing for me in doing those things I don't want to do is reminding myself that in doing so I will join the ranks of the champions on this planet. Willingness to go that extra mile separates the great from the average. I intend to live my fullest potential in my lifetime, and that helps me to embrace the things I don't want to do that I need to do to get there. That said, I do use some tricks to motivate myself in the moment (see my comment on the next post).

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    If the New Age movement has a 'downside', I'd say it shifted people (temporarily perhaps) from actively working on their desires to a more passive, 'visualize it and it will come' mindset. I know when I first discovered, and then actively walked, the Spiritual path — much time was devoted to reading, journalling, affirmation repetition, etc. – all in the belief that the energy vibration I was 'sending out there' would draw my desired outcome to me. Over time, I've balanced this approach with the actual preparation, effort, 'cliff leaping' supports that ensure you're ready when the dreamed desires arrive.

    Self-Discipline and Personal Responsibility are critical life skills. Consistent practice of both strengthens our resolve and endurance … pushing us through the tasks we really don't want to do so that we may experience the wondrous freedoms they lead to.

    Great post Dr. Biali — if you're going to be appearing on 'one of the top entertainment shows in the world' that starts with the letter 'O' ~ I'm swooning with envy! Either way, I appreciate your wisdom. Thank you …

  • http://www.susanbiali.com/ Dr. Susan Biali

    Hi Sally!
    I LOVE your comment and you are absolutely right on. I also used to be hugely into the New Age approach towards “manifestation”, and though goal-setting and visualizing are essential to ultimately creating the life that you dream of living, it’s ACTION that will get you there. Action, grounded in a strong belief that when you take steps towards your dreams, you WILL get results and often more amazing “synchronous” results than you could have ever imagined. And re. the Hollywood show, it’s not Oprah (yet!), I’ve been invited to join the team of “Lifechangers” on the Hollywood show Extra (Dr. Oz is one, too!). Put one foot ahead of the next, even when the going gets tough (and when you don’t feel like it), and life will reward you!

  • http://www.susanbiali.com/ Dr. Susan Biali

    Hi Sally!
    I LOVE your comment and you are absolutely right on. I also used to be hugely into the New Age approach towards “manifestation”, and though goal-setting and visualizing are essential to ultimately creating the life that you dream of living, it's ACTION that will get you there. Action, grounded in a strong belief that when you take steps towards your dreams, you WILL get results and often more amazing “synchronous” results than you could have ever imagined. And re. the Hollywood show, it's not Oprah (yet!), I've been invited to join the team of “Lifechangers” on the Hollywood show Extra (Dr. Oz is one, too!). Put one foot ahead of the next, even when the going gets tough (and when you don't feel like it), and life will reward you!

  • http://sallyg.me Sally G.

    I can’t even imagine how wonderful it must feel to be aligned in collaboration with a team defined as LifeChangers ~ that’s significant! Dr. Oz is fabulous. Real, informative, ‘user-friendly’ with a sense of humour when appropriate. A true Trust Agent in his field. I will be watching for this segment, and you. Thank you for chatting with me …

  • http://www.facebook.com/pages/Caring-Creates-/228986840568 Sally G.

    I can't even imagine how wonderful it must feel to be aligned in collaboration with a team defined as LifeChangers ~ that's significant! Dr. Oz is fabulous. Real, informative, 'user-friendly' with a sense of humour when appropriate. A true Trust Agent in his field. I will be watching for this segment, and you. Thank you for chatting with me …

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