#MOMeoChat: Tired of the Gimmes? Tips for Taming the Entitled Monster @PeggyHarperLee
Q1: Why are parents constantly overindulging their kids?
@OurMomSpot A1: Guilt
@CarlaYoung Q1: Because we can…
@ OurMomSpot A1: Pride & the desire for the kids to have it better than we did.
@ JenP_kidsauthor A1: they are worn down and it’s easier than saying no.
@ PeggyHarperLee @CarlaYoung Misguided sense of “I just want my kid to be happy and have it better than I did”
@ TiredMama1 I use, ‘That’s not my problem, it’s yours’ a lot. When they start to demand something or they tell me they’re bored.
@ PeggyHarperLee @TiredMama1 That put the responsibility back where it belongs!
@ PeggyHarperLee Fear & guilt are big reasons why we spoil as well.
@PeggyHarperLee Fear is usually that my child will hate me or be mad at me
Q2: How do you tell if you are a spoiler parent?
@ PeggyHarperLee You likely already know and just don’t know what else to do
@ HeatherSBroad Too many toys in the house!!!
@ CarlaYoung Q2: Look in their toy room…if it’s full, chances are…
@ PeggyHarperLee You may be a spoiler parent if you are rescuing your child—did you help him cram for his test instead of let him get an F?
@ AskMamaMOE Q2: I think the first sign is if your child throws a tantrum if you haven’t given brought home a gift, or given a sweet…!
@ MamaBearsPlace Q2 #momeochat when you embarrassed to discipline in public
@ PeggyHarperLee Spoiler parent is one who over-indulges or over protects
@ AskMamaMOE I think spoiling starts off innocently enough, but then can turn into a problem!
@ SarahDeveau Q2 Halloween candy made me realise my spoiler weak spot. Begging for it, whining for more, I give in and regret it.
@ SugarChicTreat I would “rescue” with homework as there was only so much crying “I don’t get it” I could handle!
Q3: Where should we as parents draw the line on too much stuff?
@ PeggyHarperLee Harder to draw the line when you can afford to over-indulge
@ CarlaYoung Q3: When you are buying more storage for toys and stuff…um…EEK! #guilty
@ JenP_kidsauthor When buying extras outweighs necessities.
@ OurMomSpot Parents who grew up poor initially feel pride at being able to spoil. UNTIL the behaviour problems begin
@ AskMamaMOE Q3: Too much stuff…I like @PeterWalsh ‘s rule – the one in one out. Doesn’t always happen though!
@ PeggyHarperLee Good rule of thumb, Look at how often you treat yourself—you know whether it’s too much. Apply same std. or lower to child.
@ SarahDeveau Wild assumption – I bet everyone’s kids here have multiple times the toys we all did as kids.
@ CarlaYoung @OurMomSpot I can see that! It becomes a pride issue.
@ MelissaVroon Q3: on DS bday he only got 1 gift from us. I felt guilty all day. It’s a fine line, trying not to spoil but feeling guilty.
@ PeggyHarperLee Donate to less fortunate and build compassion too!
@ DoinaOncel @kimgarst @CarlaYoung @KidsGummyMum We are donating gently used toys to our church for Christmas presents to less fortunate
MOMeo Q4: What are the signs that your child is becoming entitled?
@ AskMamaMOE Q4: when your child pulls a tantrum because he/she didn’t receive something…when they expect it.
@ JenP_kidsauthor When they no longer express gratitude.
@ OurMomSpot @MOMeo A4: An entitled child demands things. When they receive things, they get bored quickly & do not show care or gratitude.
@ CarlaYoung Q4: When they ask for the next thing as the thing they are doing is ending…
@ PeggyHarperLee Too much stuff fosters thankless and greedy child.
@ HeatherSBroad I really struggle with “I just want my child to be happy” & “you’re only a kid once” mindset
@ PeggyHarperLee @HeatherSBroad That’s huge. But they also only have one chance to develop character and mature into health, happy adult.
Q5: Why should you not get your kids everything they want this Christmas?
@ DoinaOncel They already have everything
@ PeggyHarperLee Extra stuff needs to be an occasional treat not commonplace.
@ SarahDeveau No room 4 the entire Sears Wish Book!
@ AskMamaMOE Q5: Christmas is still very exciting for them (Santa and all), but I make sure they have one special thing they asked for
@ CarlaYoung Q5: Christmas is about that one special thing…not 25 special things…it makes it less special
@ PeggyHarperLee Q5 You rob them of ability to tolerate delayed gratification—won’t learn to handle frustrations
@ CarlaYoung A friend once said she wants to give her children experiences not things…love that!
@ PeggyHarperLee If he’s getting everything he WANTS, he’ll see it as NEEDS and be unable to tell the difference
MOMeo Q6: How to you put a stop to the whining and the gimmes?
@ MelissaVroon Q5 because even if I got DS all the toys he wants, he’ll get bored of them right away. Better to limit them
@ KidsGummyMum Q5 -Oldest is old enough to start buying what she wants with own money. Paper route & learning to save.
@ AskMamaMOE @MOMeo Q6: we’re working on that now! But calming them down, talking and counting to 10 sometimes works.
@ EntreprenMoms Play videos of children in need globally
@ CarlaYoung Q6: Ignore it
@ SarahDeveau Q6 – we’ve fallen into this trap with the little treats at playplaces, grocery store, grandma’s house.
@ CarlaYoung Q6: Make the things they really want something they earn
@ PeggyHarperLee Have values, communicate them clearly, & stand firm. “We don’t do greed & gluttony at our house”
@ khluvr621 Firm “no” and ignore.
@ EntreprenMoms Q6- Best way we’ve found to teach that giving/ experiencing is better than stuff, is to model it.
@ AskMamaMOE I don’t know about you, but grandparents make this issue VERY hard!
@ CarlaYoung @EntreprenMoms We have lots of talks about the children who have nothing, not even a house or parents talks
@ SarahDeveau Kids are awesome about big things but horrible about little treats. Feel like instituting a treat ban 2 break the habit
@ PeggyHarperLee Time is more valuable than money to kids. Give gifts you can’t put a price tag on.
@ TiredMama1 We did the change of latitude, change of attitude. Showing them how the majority of the world lives puts perspective back.
@ momstownCtrlAb #momeochat Q6 we took our oldest to a children’s home and she saw 1st hand what less fortunate means
@ AskMamaMOE Giving your time to your children is the best gift you can give (and the real gift they want)
@ nakiareighbiz “@CarlaYoung: Q6: Make the things they really want something they earn
@ EntreprenMoms A friend posts her family values in a type of creed on the wall with input from even the youngest in the brood. Love that.
@ EntreprenMoms Q6- Sadly once or twice I had to indulge a whining child because they were disturbing others and we were stuck there
Q7: Why do parents and grandparents always end up buying too many gifts?
@ PeggyHarperLee @OurMomSpot Grandparents are tough, but communicate the vision and they may get on board. They have lots of time!
@ PeggyHarperLee I little spoiling won’t hurt, it’s just if it goes overboard. Would hate to take away the Grand experience for child and GParent
@ PeggyHarperLee It can–helps if they are enlisted to help solve a problem.
@ AskMamaMOE Hey! Guess what? Tomorrow is #randomactofkindnessday that would be a good way to teach children
@ PeggyHarperLee Best way to handle buying too many toys–plan ahead. Coordinate with GParents
Q8: How do you handle extended family that goes overboard with toys and gifts?
@ CarlaYoung Q8: Explain that as things come in, other things need to go out! Avoids the temptation to go crazy
@ PeggyHarperLee @CarlaYoung If they don’t cooperate, donate the excess to a truly needy child. Teach your kids to be generous and share joy
@ OurMomSpot A8: We spoke with them directly. Luckily, we didn’t get any crazy-ness from them.
@ AskMamaMOE @PeggyHarperLee we have started this – and I am not lying when I say we still have an unopened gift or two from bday 6mths ago!
@ TiredMama1 I have the grandparents take them out on an event together. Then it’s a gift/break for me too and less stuff in my house
@ jennmcgroary We also do name swap.
@ CarlaYoung Q8: I try to encourage extended family to give consumable gifts…craft supplies, coloring books, stickers
@ SarahDeveau Experiences only – toys will b returned/donated.
@ EntreprenMoms Q8 I try to encourage them to ask me what the kids need first before purchasing, eg new running shoes
@ CarlaYoung Q8: What drives me crazy is when they bring gifts just for visiting!
@ EntreprenMoms Usually we raise $500-1000 for charity #nogifts
@ AskMamaMOE @MOMeo Q8: talking in advance to them might help (might!)
MOMeo Q9: What are the other ways kids become entitled?
@ PeggyHarperLee We’ve been talking about the most common way, Overindulgence—spoiling kids with material things
@OurMomSpot: Parents, don’t make the mistake of thinking you can substitute “things” for interaction.
@ DoinaOncel When other children have it they think they MUST have it too
@ PeggyHarperLee Overprotection has same effect as overindulgence because child never learns consequences–helicopter parents
@ PeggyHarperLee Neglect also has spoiling effect because power shift from parent to child
@ AskMamaMOE @MOMeo Pampering, boasting, complimenting too much (is that possible?), definitely catering!
@ OurMomSpot A9: When kids get away with lying to avoid consequences & when they are permitted to be bullies, they become entitled.
@ PeggyHarperLee Neglect can be because of harsh circumstances, or it can be at the hands of jet-setting parents
@ CarlaYoung Q9: I loved what @PeggyHarperLee said about rescuing and not letting consequences happen!
MOMeo Q10: What can parents do to turn their entitled child around?
@ PeggyHarperLee Some parents are uncomfortable with power, but if you give it to your child, he can’t use it in his best interest.
@ AskMamaMOE @MOMeo Q10: I think if it starts to get too much, a real one-on-one time with child is needed to get things back on track
@ PeggyHarperLee My book, ”Spoiled” covers the six common mistakes spoiler parents make & what to do differently
@ DoinaOncel @PeggyHarperLee The ownership kids need is over their behaviour. Some responsibility is healthy.
@ PeggyHarperLee It’s really important to address your own emotional baggage if it’s getting in the way—you deserve to heal
@ EntreprenMoms Like letting them be late to school if they delay
@ PeggyHarperLee ”Spoiled” also covers the six common mistakes spoiler parents make & what to do differently
@ PeggyHarperLee Recognize the power you have as a parent and be confident in using it to help your child
Encouraging parents to take charge and be the leaders their children deserve, author Peggy Harper Lee shows parents how to recognize the signs of entitlement & provides practical advice & solutions for effective & disciplined parenting in her upcoming book, “Spoiled: Fresh Ideas for Parenting Your Entitled Child at any Age”. Now avaialble for pre-sale.
#MOMeoChat: How to Increase Your Exposure by Becoming an Expert Source @SourceBottle
Q1: How do you start getting free publicity from journalists and bloggers?
@CarlaYoung Q1: Follow journalists and bloggers on Twitter and read their stuff before reaching out!
@ SourceBottle 1st: Sign up to SourceBottle: http://t.co/hp41mNCc and any other free media leads services ASAP!
@ SourceBottle Q1: Then you’ll start receiving free ‘call outs’ from journalists/bloggers for experts
@ SalesDiva Q1: You have to get on their RADAR. They can’t interview you if they don’t know who you are.
@ jenniferkbooth q1-be confident in what you have to offer
@ SalesDiva Q1: So you join resources like @SourceBottle and get in front of potential reporters, authors & experts.
@ SalesDiva Q1: Reporters interview people who have something to offer to their viewers, readers, listeners. No selling!
@ AndriaCWDS Q1 – getting linked with local media on Twitter helps – yet meeting in person = much better!
@ CarlaYoung Q1: It REALLY annoys editors when you don’t read their publication first!
@ SalesDiva Q1: Offer story ideas to reporters i.e./ local/national perspective & 2 other people to interview. Make it easy.
Q2: What is the value of publicity versus advertising?
@ SourceBottle Q2: Publicity is the Lady Gaga of promotion! It has cut through + will overshadow advertising efforts EVERY TIME
@ MargoDeGange Well for one it’s free or nearly free
@ CarlaYoung Q2: Credibility…journalists and bloggers have a trust relationship with their audience!
@ prforsmallbiz A2) People rather read an editor’s recommendation than see an ad.
@ SalesDiva Advertising can’t compete with PR. People don’t trust ads like they used to.
@SalesDiva Q2 – publicity builds a community history, while advertising may miss the beat. It’s about awareness with brand, no?
@ CarlaYoung Connecting with journalists and bloggers is key…that’s why services like @SourceBottle are so valuable!
@ SourceBottle Q2: When you advertise you pay to control the message. With the media, you don’t. People attach more weight to publicity
@ SalesDiva Q2: Getting free publicity is having someone else say you’re hot vs. you walking around saying you’re hot!
@SalesDiva Q2: Ads only run where you paid for them. Stories can get picked up & run across the nation/world. So there.
@SourceBottle Q2: I think an investment of time/resources in PR is always worthwhile.
@ MargoDeGange When you control the message people tend to tune out more
@ EntreprenMoms Q2 PR has a long shelf life – ads expire before they’re consumed often.
Q3: What makes an expert a valuable resource for journalists and bloggers?
@CarlaYoung Q3: Lots of things, but something people don’t often think of is timing…if you need a source, you usually need it NOW!!!
@ prforsmallbiz A3) Someone who can give information on how to help the general public.
@ SalesDiva Q3: You make their job easy. One stop shopping. 3 people to interview, photo opportunities, ideas for future stories
@ SourceBottle Q3: They need to know their stuff, be responsive + available
@ SourceBottle Q3: Oh, it helps if they’re nice too
@ CarlaYoung Think of services like @SourceBottle as the first step to building a long term relationship!
@ SalesDiva PR is not about you pitching your product/service. It’s something that gives an audience value, an idea
@ SalesDiva Q3: You have to be energetic & know your stuff. Short, sweet, to the point. Have personality.
@ CarlaYoung If you aren’t comfortable pitching, sign up for a media service (ahem @SourceBottle) and respond to queries
@ jenniferkbooth you want to become the TRUSTED authority
@ SourceBottle Q3: Be creative’ by highlighting the unusual or ‘impressive’ in your response. Make your pitch scream: ‘Pick ME!’
@ SalesDiva I had 75,000 hits from a news release alone. THAT was a vwery, vwery, FUN. (Say in Elmer Fudd voice)
Q4: How can experts make their response to a source query stand out?
@prforsmallbiz A4) Quick response with factual data and any unique/one of a kind information
@ SalesDiva Q4: Don’t be a windbag. Boring. Sounding like you belong on the Shopping Channel.
@ SourceBottle Q4: Professional pictures and images can REALLY help ‘sell’ your pitch
@ SalesDiva Q4: Pitch a concept, a success story, a different perspective on a topic that’s hot in the media.
@ SourceBottle Q4: In short: You want to make it dead easy for the journalist or blogger
@ SalesDiva Q4: Follow what’s in the movies, the news, hot on social media, and then TAG TEAM it with local spin.
@ JumpstartHR A4: I always lead with my credentials, provide relevant bullet points, and then sign off with a sincere closing.
@ CarlaYoung One of my favorite @SalesDiva tips is forward source queries to others (big relationship boost)
@ SalesDiva Q4: Reporters love when you’ve done the work. You have sexy sound bites (more on that in a minute)
@ SourceBottle Q4: Journalists and bloggers will try to wrap up their story as soon as they find the best source. BE THERE FIRST!
@ jenniferkbooth q4-I also follow others in my profession and professional groups to see what’s hot there and learn
@ SalesDiva Q4: The hottest books on the NYTimes, the seasons, special days of the year/month i.e./ Oct is Small Biz month
@ SourceBottle Q4: Yes, look at what’s topical and tie your story in with it.
@ SalesDiva Too hard for a reporter to understand your pitch? They definitely know you’ll suck in an interview too.
@ SourceBottle Q4: As @CarlaYoung said, read their stuff so you ‘know’ them + their audience BEFORE YOU PITCH
Q5: How can experts extend the relationship without becoming a pest?
@ prforsmallbiz A5) Continue relationship through social media & provide news or tips directly Tweeted to them once in a while
@ SourceBottle Q5: Don’t expect an immediate response. Don’t follow up if you if you don’t get said ‘immediate response’. Give them time.
@ SalesDiva Q5: Remember you can’t always be the STAR OF THE SHOW. Forward reporters ideas on other people you know.
@CarlaYoung Q5: Stay in touch and ask what types of stories they would like pitched
@ SalesDiva Q5: Position yourself as an expert resource vs. someone with Gimme Gimme Disease.
@ SourceBottle Q5: Let the journalist take the lead in the relationship. Only follow up if have something new to offer
@ SalesDiva Places like @sourcebottle make it super easy to get connected with reporters, bloggers & more. Loveeeeeeeeee
@CarlaYoung Sometimes the toughest part is getting that first connection…use @SourceBottle to get it and work it!
@ EntreprenMoms Really you need to research the reporter as much as they need to research you.
Q6: What makes an expert ‘media-friendly’?
@ SalesDiva Your pitch MUST be relevant to what they want. I’ve done stories with the smallest thread to what I do.
@ SourceBottle Q6: They’re generous with their expertise + they’re accessible to the media.
@ EntreprenMoms Q6 Be available
@ CarlaYoung Q6: Be organized with bio, photo, stats and everything they need to write their story fast!
@ JumpstartHR I’ve also learned that you shouldn’t give bland responses. There will be a ton of those. Show reporters something fresh!
@ SalesDiva Q6: Don’t fumble/stutter/avoid questions/don’t stare at camera. Have loads of energy, stats, quotes and ZIP.
@ SourceBottle Q6: Oh + it helps if they’re personable, articulate and funny. A sense of humour is a definite asset!
@ SalesDiva Q6: And sending them a thank you card certainly makes you stand out from the crowd. No one does that. Well except me!
@ JumpstartHR Lead with: credentials, quantifiable success, any books you’ve written and that’s it.. then get right to it!
@ SalesDiva Q6: You must show personality either through the written word, on radio or on TV. Make people curious about you
@ SourceBottle Q6: Yes, a definite thank you (hard copy form) is wonderful and RARE!
@ EntreprenMoms Q6 For better or worse it doesn’t hurt to look fab- even ‘professional hot’ for video interviews
@ SalesDiva Q6: I’ve also sent them a beautiful cake from a bakery saying ” You made the interview a piece of cake.”
Q7: What are the other ways businesses and experts can use @SourceBottle?
@ SalesDiva Q7: You can post your own request to interview someone. Gets you traffic, reporters ask about you too
@ CarlaYoung Q7: Tune into source queries to find out what is being written about! Tip from @SourceBottle
@ SourceBottle Q7: Use SourceBottle to seek out giveaways and freebies opportunities with audiences you’re trying to reach
@ CarlaYoung Did you hear that bloggers? @SourceBottle lets you seek out giveaways!!!
@ SourceBottle Q7: You can respond to requests from PRs for case studies on relevant topics.
@ JumpstartHR Special tip: Pitches that you submit make a GREAT foundation for your next blog article. Plus you know the info is relevant.
@ SourceBottle Q7: The PR will then pitch you and your expertise to the media on your behalf. You don’t have to do a thing.
@ EntreprenMoms “Make people curious about you” – knowing how to turn up/down that dial in an interview setting is key
Q8: How can we as bloggers and publishers use @SourceBottle to create interesting content?
@ SourceBottle Q8: Be like journalists and use SourceBottle to find great sources. We LOVE bloggers and welcome your posts.
@ SalesDiva Q8: So easy! The leads on experts that you can then use for a teleseminar conference, e-book, stats, interviews
@ SourceBottle Q8: Oh and quoting credible sources adds depth and credibility to your articles
@ CarlaYoung Q8: Ask for experts to contribute to your blog, seek case studies, call out for experts @SourceBottle
@ SalesDiva Q8: Remember it all adds extra value to your community of followers. It is like layers on a cake.
@ SourceBottle Q8: Many bloggers find their most popular blog pieces have been when they’ve researched it + quoted experts
@ SalesDiva Stay on the trail. Don’t be a one-hit wonder where you get one media hit & then forget about it. Stay on radar.
Q9: How can businesses use @SourceBottle to gain exposure for their product?
@ SourceBottle Q9: Religiously scan the RH column in the email alert.
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@ SalesDiva Go for ALL levels of media – just not local. It gives you instant credibility in your OWN MARKET.
Q10: Accountability: Who is going to start using @SourceBottle and responding to queries?
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#MOMeoChat:Building your Business Support Network
Q1: Who actively seeks out networking support, idea support and emotional support? Which one(s) and why?
@EntreprenMoms A1 Everyone should but not everyone does! It’s the smart ones who understand that everyone needs support
@EntreprenMoms A1 for those seeking support falls into 2 groups: ones in the thick of it with young families & ones who have raised their kids
@CarlaYoung Q1: All three are critical…especially the idea support (in my opinion)
@CarlaYoung Q1: Idea support helps you learn from others (and their mistakes)
@IntactMarketing A1 I found it impossible to be successful on your own. You need support and surround yourself with positive people to grow
@IntactMarketing: A1 impossible to be successful on your own. need support & surround yourself w/positive people to grow
@CarlaYoung: FYI…I built my 1st business entirely on networking (and those relationships still help me today 10 years later)
@HeatherSBroad: A1 – everyone should! We cant do it all – everyone needs support in some capacity!
@CarlaYoung Q1: Networking support means less cold calling…yay – warm leads
Q2: What is your business networking strategy?
@MangoTangoIntrs: I meet people, have a build coffee & see ..build relationships
@CarlaYoung Q2: Meet people, help out and build relationships that follow me wherever I go
@EntreprenMoms: A2: Really pay attention to introductions! Hone in on that person with a view of how they can be helpful
@HeatherSBroad A2 – getting to know them & their business with a view of future collaboration
@MangoTangoIntrs: skype dates to work on business building with people are great
@shelleymayer: A2. Diversification is good. Industries, demographics, channels.
@OrganizerBoards: We do a lot of information sharing, critiquing, and sharing our expertise
@EntreprenMoms: We find that many never knew how much value there was in networking until they try
@OrganizerBoards: Q2 … Talk to people … not at people … start conversations
@shelleymayer: Authenticity & human connection important w/both
@CarlaYoung: It always amazes me how generous other entrepreneurs are with their ideas
Q3: Do you use different strategies for online and offline networking?
@ CarlaYoung Q3: The principle is the same, but the platform is different so needs slightly different tactics
@MangoTangoIntrs I always ask people what they want to discuss so it can brew and then when we meet its a sharing of ideas and go from there
@GoodiesForGifts yes, but either way, you have to be genuine
@CarlaYoung Please everyone ALWAYS remember to follow-up after networking!
@IntactMarketing Q3 I try hard whenever is possible to move my online connections to offline connections
@EntreprenMoms: A3 Definitely! Online is a great way to start but offline deepens the connection
@CarlaYoung Q3: I use online networking to stay connected after meeting offline too!
@shelleymayer Authenticity & human connection important w/both
@EntreprenMoms A3 in person is always more effective – people connect better but online starts the convo so go hand in hand
@EntreprenMoms A3 It’s been proven time and time again that one in-person meeting packs a powerful punch- connections mean more
@CarlaYoung: Q3: I use online networking to stay connected after meeting offline too!
@MangoTangoIntrs: Human connection LOVE it always gets the best result
@CarlaYoung: Q3: The principle is the same, but the platform is different so needs slightly different tactics
@CarlaYoung: Q3: I use online networking to stay connected after meeting offline too!
Q4: How do you start developing reciprocal referral relationships?
@MangoTangoIntrs: say you have a referral program and ask if they have one
@CarlaYoung Q4: Understand their business and start slowly swapping leads back and forth…(it does help to suggest it though)
@EntreprenMoms: A4 look at what motivates them! What makes this person tick? What makes their business tick?
@shelleymayer Find natural synergies
@CarlaYoung Q4: It helps to join referral-type networking groups where that is expected
@GoodiesForGifts find someone you connect with and go from there. I have a few of those now. Happened organically
@EntreprenMoms A4 What are they looking for and what can you do for them
@CarlaYoung: Q4: It helps to join referral-type networking groups where that is expected
@LifeSimplicated A4: focus on what you can give
@CarlaYoung: I’m thinking I’m going to do more virtual coffees via skype to connect with connections
@themomclub: Ive joined forces with great entrepreneurs I’ve met on twitter.
@CarlaYoung Q4: some referrals will only go 1 dir so as long as you are ok & trust established customer centric environment
@IntactMarketing Q4 I learned that if your genuinely interested to know about their dream and help them one step closer you can build long term
@EntreprenMoms: A4 What are they looking for and what can you do for them
@EntreprenMoms A4 what’s key is motivation! What motivates them & what makes this a mutually beneficial relationship?
Q5: What is the best way to ask for business referrals without seeming too pushy or salesy?
@EntreprenMoms: A5) put your “I would love to help you” best foot forward! Be disarming always remembering what’s in it for them
@EntreprenMoms: A5 Put it out there! Say I would love to work with you – we should chat!
@shelleymayer Q5. Strong value prop is key- referrer is helping their own network
@CarlaYoung Answer the question WIIFM (What’s in it for me)? FIRST
@IntactMarketing: Q5 First offer your help to them and they will return the favor. Treat people the way you want to be treated
@EntreprenMoms A5- I tend to have a very casual and straighforward manner- “let’s do something together!”… Have to feel it out first!
@EntreprenMoms A5 read their reaction to wanting to work with them. Get a sense of whether it is reciprocated
Q6: How do you seek out peer advisors to share ideas with and learn from?
@CarlaYoung: Q6: It sounds silly, but ask! Sometimes that advisor may want to set up a coaching arrangement
@IntactMarketing: @MrsSotology I attended several tweet-ups and made some meaningful connections
@CarlaYoung I always go to tweetups around conferences.
@ EntreprenMoms And the legacy of the connections is timeless! RT @jenniferdonogh: @CarlaYoung
@GoodiesForGifts tweetups are fun
@EntreprenMoms A6) If you seek a peer advisor go where they should be and make the ask
@EntreprenMoms A6) Meet people where you hope to find them- who’s in the health food aisle pouring over ingredients if you’re in health industry
@EntreprenMoms: A6) Look to your networking groups first as they are obvious and chock full of networky-minded folk like you
@EntreprenMoms: A6) Peer advisors seem to pop out of every crevice when you make the decision to look.
Q7: How do you find the right group to mastermind with? What qualities do you look for?
@ GoodiesForGifts I look for drive, dedication and desire to really get to know me as a person. I love personal connections
@CarlaYoung: Q7: Seek people who are at your level or above
@IntactMarketing: Q7-I look for groups where the members want to help each other not compete against each other
@EntreprenMoms: #EMI is offering masterminding events this season as we know how vital it is
@KidsGummyMum Following your local stream is smart
@MrsSotology: look for others that respect your craft and want to help you build business not just take take take
@EntreprenMoms: A7 Masterminding is important- it provides intense 1-on-1 problem-solving that we miss around the water cooler
Q8: What boundaries to you put in place to make sure idea sharing doesn’t turn into brain draining?
@MrsSotology I try to give enough information to display my expertise but not so much to consult… be careful of that
@CarlaYoung Q8: If it’s reciprocal (equal sharing), then yes. If it’s you coaching for free, consider boundaries
Q9: How do you find a safe space where you can really be open about the challenges of building a business?
@CarlaYoung: Q9: Hanging out with your peers. Friends and family dont always get it
@MrsSotology surround yourself with others that are in or have been in your situation.their passion & intent will be in your favor
@ EntreprenMoms Safety is achieved with ritualistic familiarity. When you see the same people regularly, your guard can come down.
@CarlaYoung so true! Some of my biggest supporters have been 3rd party colleagues!
@EntreprenMoms A9) A dedicated group of specific people is needed for security and feeling comfortable in airing challenges
@ jenniferdonogh a9. in the more literal sense, a safe place is not at the local coffee shop
Q10: Accountability Question: What are you going to do this week to build your business support network?
@ GoodiesForGifts learn more about the ladies I met tonight, and look into tweet-ups. Also research Entrepreneurial Moms!
@ EntreprenMoms A10) Brush up on cool but not frozen contacts this wk
@shelleymayer Make the calls don’t just write them on a to-do list
@ CarlaYoung Q10: Get more business cards printed for upcoming event!
@KidsGummyMum @MOMeo Q10 going to @shesconnected conference & personally speak 1on1 to all 200 attendees. #MyGoal #BuildBusinessNetwork
@ EntreprenMoms Remember we are social creatures. Being connected is sewn into our genetic fabric!
Want to build your business support network & connect with other moms who understand what drives you to build a business while raising a family? Join your local or global Entrepreneurial Moms International chapter today!
#MOMeoChat: Back to School Resolutions – Starting Fresh for a New School Year
Q1: How do you use the fresh start of a new school year to make changes?
@CarlaYoung Q1: The new school year seems like a better time than New Years…it follows a long break from habits and the opp for fresh start
@CarlaYoung Q1: Ditch all the old habits and consider what new ones you’d like to start!
@HappyFamMvmt We get back on a routine! Summer is chaos around here. Back to school means consistent bedtimes and more organization!
@OrganizerBoards Q1 – it’s easy to form new routines around a set school schedule
@HappyFamMvmt: We get back on a routine! Summer is chaos. Back to school means consistent bedtimes and more organization!
@CarlaYoung Q1: I go to the gym, I spring clean the house I make food for a month and finally get back on track with work
@OrganizerBoards Q1 – school starting also allows me to mentally focus on work and not multitask when kids are home
@alyciaedgar Q1. Getting back into routine. I also like to add a new “you’re a bigger kid now” responsibility for my kids
Q2: What are your Back to School resolutions for your business?
@HappyFamMvmt I will make a meal plan… I will make a meal plan… I will make a meal plan (and then I will follow it)
@OrganizerBoards Q2 – Work smarter – and more effectively during work time – focus – and stop work when work should stop!
@HappyFamMvmt Get caught up. And get to cracking on all these awesome ideas we’ve had in the works all summer long.
@CarlaYoung Q2: Be more focused and productive and really REALLY protect my time!
@JeannieSpiro I up my education in the fall, just like the kids
@alyciaedgar Q2. Focus, focus, focus on existing projects and mapping out of all implementable ideas generated during time off
@OrganizerBoards Q2 – Also – plan for new work projects more – don’t start too many that I can’t finish
@BalanceMyLife q2: work smarter work less enjoy life more – the ultimate balance
Q3: What are your Back to School resolutions for personal life?
@CarlaYoung: Q3: Get fit and get over my back injury (I hate not being able to do things)
@HappyFamMvmt Q3: Meal plan. More play time with the kids. Get everything in the house organized (can you tell I like to organize?!)
@YourDoulaBag Q3: book babysitters for date nights with husband
@HappyFamMvmt Q3: more exercise, more sleep… oh there are SO many things on this list!
@BalanceMyLife @CarlaYoung q2: work smarter work less enjoy life more – the ultimate balance which I am still trying to find myself
@HartGalla Q3:#goodcleanliving. Have a meal plan for the next 3 months, fitness plan, date night plan and quality time focus
@BalanceMyLife #momeochat Q3: back to the gym Full blast I love it
Q4: What are your Back to School resolutions for your family?
@CarlaYoung Q4: Teaching both husband and daughter about routines — packing school bag, lunch, etc. the night before
@HappyFamMvmt Q4: get the kids used to routines and schedules, enough sleep for the kids.
@HappyFamMvmt Q4: (this is a constant resolution in our house) creating memorable family experiences. Seeing how back to school fits in to that
@OrganizerBoards Q4 – have fun together!
@YourDoulaBag Q4: school nights try to eat together & bedtime by 8pm.Weekends do fun things we don’t usually do. #
@JeannieSpiro We purged & organized before school started, so staying that way
@CarlaYoung Q4: Husband and I are spending a lot of time thinking about lifestyle choices…really awesome dialogue to start
@HappyFamMvmt Q4: be THERE for our kids… breakfast together, lunch on Fridays with our 1st grader, bike rides to school
@YourDoulaBag Back to Q4: want to spend more one on one time with each child. They love it so much.
Q5: What new habits would you like to establish for Back to School?
@HappyFamMvmt Q5 make a meal plan, grocery shop for the meal plan, and actually follow through with it
@OrganizerBoards Q5 Getting up early so getting ready for school isn’t a mad dash! So far so good!
@CarlaYoung Q5: Getting everyone involved in family organization and protecting my office time…oh and boundaries
@HelpWeveGotKids Early wake up!
@YourDoulaBag Q5: big kids make own lunches & are responsible for practicing instruments daily.clothes out night before too.
@HappyFamMvmt Q5: Dedicated work hours for hubby & I. Then maybe we could take a night off instead of working 7 nights a week!
@kmohara A: An early bedtime. And calm morning
@BalanceMyLife @HappyFamMvmt so hard to leave work behind when it is in your face – my resolution is to turn the light off at 3:30
@HartGalla Running every morning. Working with the kids on clean up responsibility. Practicing reading & writing nightly
Q6: What bad habits would you like to ditch for Back to School?
@YourDoulaBag Q6: allowing myself to work past midnight.
@OrganizerBoards Q6 – Skipping breakfast! I need to eat with the kids! bad mommy habit!
@kmohara A6: Keep the tv off when we get home. We have a narrow window as it is – should spend it together
@CarlaYoung Q6: Booking too many meetings and calls!
@BalanceMyLife Q6: drinking wine – eating too much
@HappyFamMvmt Q6 – Cereal for dinner
@HartGalla A6: Being glued to my phone when my kids are around or working at dinner. Step back. Be present
Q7: How important is it to include your family in your resolutions?
@CarlaYoung Q7: I love the idea of creating a family vision to get them onside and teach about goal setting and priorities
@HartGalla HUGE! For everything. How do they change if they don’t know the New World Order?
@OrganizerBoards Q7 – very important! They need be on board to make it happen
@BalanceMyLife @MOMeo Q7: monkey see monkey do! If they see you do it they will do it too!
@CarlaYoung Q7: Making a decision in a vacuum never works. No one sticks with it and you lose energy for it
@kitandcaboodle Less computer?
@CarlaYoung One personal resolution I made was to get more massages…that’s easy to stick to!
@YourDoulaBag Main resolution is to get out there & live! Whether that means having fun w/ kids or pushing the limits w/my biz. Go 4it.
Q8: How do you start making changes to your daily habits?
@CarlaYoung Q8: Force the habit until it becomes second nature. It takes time to change behaviour
@OrganizerBoards Q8 – I just jump in and try to keep them going … if you fall off the wagon just get back on the next day
@HeatherSBroad Q8 – make a conscious decision to stick with it and keep the end goal in mind!
@HappyFamMvmt Q8 – just doing it till it sticks. And putting it in plain sight helps too. We’ve got boards all over the kitchen with lists!
@CarlaYoung @HappyFamMvmt Love that idea of visual reminders
@OrganizerBoards Q8 – if you are constantly missing resolutions though it is time to reevaluate them
@Tara_Nelson Q8 words & thoughts become actions. Tell people your goals. And write and post them everywhere!
@CakeMechanic stop trying to live by other people’s rules.what works for Me works..don’t feel need to live up to a “criteria” happy me = happyu
@BalanceMyLife Q8: I make a list, if it is on paper I have to do it, makes me accountable!
@HappyFamMvmt we have a dry erase board on the fridge and write today’s to do list on it. new resolutions (i.e. workout) are there every day
@HartGalla Keep trying. If u have a relapse to bad habits, start again the next day. Don’t lapse, relapse, then collapse
@HappyFamMvmt Q8: the more you do it, the more it becomes second nature. Plus I HATE not crossing things off the list!
@kmohara A8: You make change by taking action. Start with manageable goals until you reach your habit goals.
Q9: How do you hold yourself accountable and make your resolutions stick?
@Tara_Nelson Q9 again, make sure to share your plans and goals. Your support system will help you stay accountable.
@CarlaYoung Q9: Don’t turn a little setback into failure. Get back on the wagon!
@HappyFamMvmt Q9: get your spouse on board. Hubby & I push each other to stay on our goals.
@OrganizerBoards Q9 – always thing about the results – the benefits of making the resolutions happen
@CakeMechanic allowing things to go has made it easier but having a strict timetable dinner6pm,bedtime7pm surprisingly simpler for us all.
@HappyFamMvmt Q9 – get the kids on board too – one day I didn’t want to workout, but told the kids we couldn’t go swimming unless I did
@OrganizerBoards Q9 – Also – celebrating successes without going back to bad habits
@BalanceMyLife Q9: make lists and tell my friends and family what My resolutions are – I don’t like to disappoint.
@HappyFamMvmt Q9 – I love lists and checking stuff off.
Q10: What do you do when you find yourself slipping back into old habits?
@CarlaYoung Q10: Being aware is key…then you need to get back on track or reevaluate if you are truly committed to the goal
@OrganizerBoards Q10 – have a list of why you are making the changes to start with – and refer to that list
@HappyFamMvmt Q10 – You have to remind yourself how much better it is to keep up with your resolutions. And force yourself to stick with them
@CakeMechanic #momeochat I had to set alarms so I don’t forget pick up from school
@BalanceMyLife @CarlaYoung @momeo Q10: i am hard on myself for a bit (i know very bad) and then I get back on the wagon very quickly
@HappyFamMvmt Google calendar is fabulous for helping us keep up with everything we have going on.
@GoSystemsGirl I have alarms to tell me 10mins til out the door and important alerts for day before
@GoSystemsGirl alerts and alarms on my iphone save me
MOMeoChat: Back to School, Back to Business Series
How to get your business groove back when the kids go back to school
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No whining about only being August and that there’s plenty of summer left and why would you spoil it by reminding us that Back to School is just around the corner. We know that, but we didn’t want you to miss out on the opportunity to apply what we’re talking about by waiting for September.
You see, ramping up takes time and NOW is the time to start preparing for Back to School (and more importantly Back to Business). Of course you know that, but it’s nice to be reminded and have someone there to kick you in the backside.
Join us every Thursday at 6pm MTN / 8pm EST for our Back to School series…
August 5th – Business Preparation: Talking about getting ready for the fall promotion season. A lot of business and opportunity happens when you flip the switch in the fall, but you need to be ready and start seeding NOW.
August 12th – Getting the Kids Ready: You aren’t the only one suffering from the ‘Holiday Hangover’ – the kids need a bit of time to ramp up for Back to School. Join us as we talk tips on how to get the kids excited and ready for September.
August 19th – Back to Business Routine: We get it – summer mode is all about sleeping in, working in your pj’s or outside on the deck (and that’s why we love it and love what we do as work-from-home mom entrepreneurs), but it’s time to get your mojo back. Don’t miss our mojo chat!
August 26th – Healthy Snacks and Lunches: Need a few fresh ideas for Back to School lunches? Join us as we talk about jazzing up the lunchbox with healthy choices for kids with special guest panelists from 10,000 Kids and Brown Bag Calgary to talk about how we can help the kids who go to school hungry!
Join #MOMeoChat every Thursday at 6pm MTN/8pm EST for an open Q&A discussion and bring your questions, ideas and best tips!
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#MOMeoChat: Putting Family First Series
Putting Family First
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Summertime is family time so that’s why we’re changing things up a bit and dedicating an entire month to the theme of family! Join our weekly chats and talk about how we can put family first while building a business and staying sane!
Thursday July 1st – Creating your Family Adventure List! Talking about how to create a lifetime of memories and experience through once-a-lifetime AND everyday experiences!
Thursday July 8th – Summer Learning! Sharing tips and strategies on how to keep our little learners actively engaged and learning over the summer!
Thursday July 15th – Summertime Safety! Talking about how to keep our kids safe during summertime activities!
Thursday July 22nd – Raising Entrepreneurial Kids! Talking about how to inspire and support our kids in pursuing their passion and how to teach kids entrepreneurial skills!
Thursday July 29th – Teaching Life Lessons! Discussing how to turn life’s little hardships and disappointments into valuable life lessons for our kids!
Join #MOMeoChat every Thursday at 6pm MTN/8pm EST for an open Q&A discussion and bring your questions, ideas and best tips!
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MOMeo Chat: Work-Life Balance
Work-Life Balance
Defining your Boundaries
***NOTE Earlier Time This Week***
THIS WEEK: Thursday May 6th at 6pm MTN / 8 pm EST
Finding that delicate work-life balance requires defining (and often defending) your boundaries. How do you maintain work-life boundaries when often you are required to shift between the two many times a day!
Join #MOMOeo Community for an open Q&A discussion on defining work-life boundaries. Share your best tips and discuss how we can maintain the delicate balance!
Stay for the Official After Party from 8 pm MTN / 10 pm EST to 9 pm MTN / 11 pm and get to know your fellow #MOMeoChat participants!
About #MOMeoChat Twitter Hashtag Parties!
Every week on Thursday from 6 pm MTN / 8 pm EST, join MOMeo Community and MOMeo Magazine for #MOMeoChat on Twitter!
Every week, we will bring you expert panelists to talk about and answer YOUR questions on building your business, family and household management and finding a little playtime time for yourself!
MOMeo Chat: Special Mother’s Day Chat
Special Mother’s Day Chat
Zen and the Art of Me-Time
THIS WEEK: Thursday May 6th at 7 pm MTN / 9 pm EST
Mother’s Day is just around the corner. The special day that celebrates all we do by giving us a day to sleep in, not cook and relax before it’s back to the go-go-go pace of motherhood.
Join #MOMOeo Community for an open Q&A discussion on finding a little me-time every day. Share your best self-care tips and discuss how we can find a little playtime for mommy!
Stay for the Official After Party from 8 pm MTN / 10 pm EST to 9 pm MTN / 11 pm and get to know your fellow #MOMeoChat participants!
About #MOMeoChat Twitter Hashtag Parties!
Every week on Thursday from 7 pm MTN / 9 pm EST, join MOMeo Community and MOMeo Magazine for #MOMeoChat on Twitter!
Every week, we will bring you expert panelists to talk about and answer YOUR questions on building your business, family and household management and finding a little playtime time for yourself!
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