Family Friday: Choosing to Live Joyfully – The Simple Gift Every Mother Can Give Her Children



We teach our children the ABCs, how to walk and talk, eat with a fork instead of fingers and chew with their mouths closed. We teach them the importance of saying, “Please” and “Thank you”, sharing their toys, and treating people with kindness.

We teach our children so many things about growing up, the word around them, and how to play well with others. But are we teaching them the simplest and yet most profound lesson? Are we teaching our children about living joyfully?

Choosing to Live Joyfully

It’s a life lesson that somehow seems to slip between the cracks. Between brushing and flossing and not sharing our germs with others, the simple lesson of how to just be happy gets forgotten.

It’s easy to see why. Children are naturally happy, curious, joyful little beings. But soon enough the wonder and amazement turns to worry and self-doubt and that’s why we need to teach them the powerful art of choosing to live joyfully.

#1 Start your day with a song – It doesn’t have to be a Mary Poppins-esque sing-along. Just turn on a favorite fun song and jump around to get the energy (and joy) movin’ and groovin’.

#2 Laugh A LOT – If something unexpected happens, like an entire bag of sugar toppling over and covering the counter, your new khakis and the floor, instead of your default reaction of “Oh shit”, laugh (because really when you think about it, it’s dang funny). Make laughter a daily habit in your home and your children will learn to laugh too.

#3 Teach them how to let go of worry – The art of living joyfully is learning how to let go of worry and move forward in faith that it will all work out. Help them practice letting go of worry by blowing it out their noses and putting it in YOUR pocket.

#4 Find the silver lining – Okay – let’s face it. Shit happens (and we often have no say at all). Sometimes the only thing you can control is your reaction. So when it rains, and rains, and rains, help them see the opportunity for fun indoor games. You know, that “When life hands you lemons, make lemonade” kind of stuff.

#5 Help them see their growth – Remind them to look back and see their accomplishments – whether it’s the growth chart on the wall or the new skills they learned that they didn’t know the year before.

#6 End every day with gratitude – Teach them the habit of taking 5 minutes at the every day to be grateful for the good things that happened. Start with “My favorite thing that happened today was…” and fill in the blank with what you are grateful for.

#7 Show them how truly special they are – This is my favorite part of living joyfully with your children – give them lots of hugs and kisses and tell them how special they are in how they walk through the world.

Now go snuggle, or sing with your kids and have a fantastic weekend! See you back here on Monday!


About Author

Carla Young, Publisher If there’s living proof that women can have it all – and then some – it’s Carla Young. Building her multiple businesses on a virtual work-at-home model, Carla is an inspiration to other mothers who want to start a lifestyle business. During her early days as a mom entrepreneur, Carla made every single mistake in the book (and a few new ones for good measure). Realizing that “doing it all” was unhealthy and unsustainable, Carla started by getting organized to the extreme, developing support systems for both her work and family. After other mothers started asking how they too could enjoy her lifestyle, Carla launched to support moms at work, at home and at play (because every mommy deserves a little me-time)!


  1. Carla, I love the angle you are coming at this. We need to be so aware of the impact of how we show up on our kids. Yet often parents get so wrapped up in the challenges and stresses of day to day mundane stuff that they lose sight of it and the kids become the casualties. So it is good to focus on points like the ones you raise here.

  2. Thanks Ali! This post was inspired by the day I decided to turn on music in the morning (hits of the 80s) and the impact on my daughter was unbelievable. She was just so happy and joyful…it set the tone for her entire day!

  3. Music really does have a huge ability to connect people (especially families) and affect mood. My son loves a blast of the Black Eyed Peas “I’ve Got a Feelin” first thing in the morning and in the car on the school run.

  4. Carla, not only is this great advice for our children, it is great advice for all of us. Let’s face it, many of us take life too seriously. Our kids are watching, and they will get the message that an inconvenience can be enough to ruin a perfectly good day. Don’t worry, be happy, great advice. Thanks for the post.

  5. It’s one of my favorite tools for inspiration and shifting my mood! You can’t be grumpy listening to the Hits of the 80’s or Abba! It’s impossible!

  6. Mother’s wants the best for their child and I’m very thankful that my mom never gave up on me when everything seems so wrong with my life. I’ll be sure to take care of my son, devote my time and love so he’ll grow up feeling loved by us.

  7. Carla I find the joy of my day Thanks to my Boys!! I drop them off at school and always ask them “I am the happiest person on earth why?” and their answer is “because you are our Mom”!! To remind them and me everyday that I love them and they make me happy! Great Post!

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