Momentum Monday – Mean People Suck (Your Energy)…Get Rid of ‘Em!
The single hardest step forward is leaving other people behind – but sometimes that’s exactly the step you need to take.
Who am I talking about?
Mean people. Needy people. People who will suck your time, your energy and never EVER give back. You know the person I’m talking about (we all have someone in our lives who has GOT to go)!
Four little (very powerful) words…Get rid of ‘em!
True story. And like all true stories – they sound quite harmless…in the beginning.
Another mommy befriended me in the melting pot they call “Mommy and Me” class. Chalk it up to inexperience – I let her insert herself into my life despite all the warning signs.
Warning, warning: not a compatible friend match!
I should have guessed by the in-your-face sales pitch for friendship that I was in trouble. I should have noticed that our friend talks were mainly one-sided and definitely all negative.
I should have noticed that we didn’t share anything in common except for parenthood (and even that was a bit of a stretch)! But I didn’t…
She was a train wreck looking to add other victims to her personal carnage. And finally it became obviously that she had to go. And even though it was necessary – it sucked.
#1: Pay attention to the warning signs – How do you feel when you are around this person? What do other people in your life think about them? Both very good warning signs.
#2: Draw the line – Be honest about your boundaries and draw your line in the sand. If the relationship doesn’t work for you, be honest about it and don’t expect either of you to change.
#3: Cut all ties – If it’s time to say Bye-bye, don’t drag it on with endless discussions about your need to move on. Just move on.
#4: Don’t feed the trolls – Sometimes a graceful exit just isn’t possible, but don’t get sucked into a battle of words.
#5: Focus on your tribe – Focus your energy on the people around you who deserve it – your tribe.
Got a mean person story? Tell us about how you untangled yourself from an unhealthy relationship.