In the fast-paced hectic life of a MOMeo, with family and business on the go, most days feel like juggling a zillion balls at once.
The life we live is unique and ever-changing, expanding to balance the needs of so many competing priorities. In the clamor of our busy lives, it can be hard to build or sustain a sense of momentum when so many issues, questions and distractions surround us in every moment.
Women are wired with some amazing talents that can be both a blessing and a curse. We are highly empathetic and intuitive. We can tune into our tribe and sense clearly when something feels “off.” Our energetic radar sweeps our environment 24/7 without us even thinking about it. Just think about how you feel when your house is full of kids, spouse, pets and ringing phones versus how you feel alone in your home.
Did your shoulders drop a few inches just reading that last sentence?
See? It’s just evidence that our hereditary ability to tune into others is still in full operation.
When you’re on the path of the MOMeo, that empathic gift can turn into a curse if you don’t master who you are tuning into. You’ve probably already discovered that everyone has an opinion about everything.
How you should run your business.
Whether you need to hire a team to help you.
How to be a good mom and good wife.
How to “do it all” and still find time to nurture your soul.
We need to be conscious and selective about whom we choose to listen to, or else we wind up in trouble. Gathering information is one thing, but getting stuck in analysis paralysis or trying to measure up to everyone else’s expectations can be real momentum killers.
One of the biggest momentum deflators is getting caught in tuning in to your Inner Critic. Researchers estimate the average person has over 50,000 thoughts per day. A huge majority of these thoughts are negative self-talk, and they are conversations you’ve had many times before. Your Inner Critic may borrow the voice of other people you know (think skeptical mother-in-law or an uptight boss you once had).
So how can you turn down the negative Inner Critic and turn up the volume on your Brilliant Self, the source of your deep wisdom and intuition?
Here’s my personal “cheat sheet” I use to tell the difference between my Inner Critic and my Brilliant Self.
Volume – My Inner Critic speaks loudly and in a demanding tone. “Hey, who the heck do you think you are now?” – is a favorite refrain. My Brilliant Self speaks in a still, calm voice. “You know you are here for a reason, and you make a difference,” my Brilliant Self tells me.
Operating Principle – My Inner Critic operates from fear and wants to keep me safe at all costs. So, it will often recycle thoughts. “What will people think of you?” or “Nobody wants what you have to offer,” are great examples. My Brilliant Self operates from love and trusts that everything follows Divine order. “Just live in your joy, and you will be supported,” my Brilliant Self assures me.
Time Orientation – My Inner Critic reacts because it filters information based on past experiences or anticipating the future. “What if?” and “I shoulda-woulda-coulda done x,y,z differently!” scenarios are big clues my Inner Critic has grabbed the microphone. My Brilliant Self responds to the present moment and offers me guidance based on where I am right now.
Underlying Tone – My Inner Critic speaks to me like I’m a child that doesn’t know what she’s doing. My Brilliant Self is always loving and respectful, treating me as the spiritual adult that I am.
So, if you’re interested in momentum, progress and joy, who are you going to listen to?
Here’s my invitation for you to step into your Brilliant Self this week:
To tune be able to truly hear the voice of your Brilliant Self, it’s important to learn to quiet your brain chatter. This week, spend at least five minutes each day in quiet contemplation.
Close your eyes and breathe deeply. If your Inner Critic wants to butt in and offer a few thoughts, just tell it “Thank you, but I’m taking a few quiet moments right now.”
Gently bring into your awareness any area where you feel you’re losing steam and want to rev up your mojo. Ask your Brilliant Self to support you in this area. Then just be still and be open to receiving guidance from within.
Success Strategist, coach and award-winning author, Carolyn B. Ellis, is the founder of BrillianceMastery.com. Her Brilliance Mastery program supports women entrepreneurs to own their brilliance so the mission of their business can be communicated clearly, powerfully and profitably. She is the creator of the Unleash Your Brilliance Summit and a certified Money, Marketing & Soul Coach.
Carolyn publishes “Bits of Brilliance,” a weekly e-newsletter that offers inspiration, wisdom and support for the woman entrepreneur or business owner who is committed to living her brilliance. She offers workshops, teleseminars and specialized coaching programs for the woman entrepreneur who believes in putting her purpose and passion into her business in a profitable way so she can make a difference in the world. Carolyn has a graduate degree from Harvard University, and is a Master Integrative Coach and Advanced PSYCH-K Facilitator. She lives in Toronto, Ontario with her three children.
To learn more about Carolyn and her services, and to receive a copy of her special report “The 7 Secrets to Unlocking Your Brilliance as a Woman Entrepreneur,” please visit www.BrillianceMastery.com